116 Days - Destination Wedding Journal - Black Destination Bride

And our photo is on his desk!!! 

And our photo is on his desk!!! 

Day 116

Tuesday, January 31, 2017

Temperature: High 39° / Low 33°


What Kind of Day Did I Have & Why?

Spectacularly delightful! I had an eye-opening appointment with my therapist early in the day and then got a BEAUTIFUL invitation later in the evening!!! All of this on a friggin’ TUESDAY!!!  I just can’t...who am I kidding?

Yes I can!


How Do I Feel? Health/Lupie Status?

Who the hell knows...or cares for that matter? I’m fine. No rating needed today!


Workout Time & Duration?

I had a good and semi-long workout with my workout buddy who now needs a new name - we’ll call her Che’s surprise recon agent. I mentioned a wish to have everyone in Atlanta for a bachelorette/bachelor party possibly on my birthday weekend in Atlanta about a week or so ago (while I was drunk) and I took it all back today after our Leg Day workout. I wanted to take it all back because I knew everyone was already going to Mexico for our wedding and didn’t want to ask for any more sacrifices...little did I know, that she already knew of a bigger plan that had been in the works for much longer than when I brought it up! I’m working out with a SuperAgent!


Destination Wedding Task Tackled:

My bachelorette party counts, so I’ll put a check in that box! I officially have a plan.


Any Old Destination Wedding Tasks Making a Comeback?


Loving Black Love Moment?

I got home from the gym and Che was already home and greeted me with a beautiful pink box with pink glitter ribbon and a big pink bow! I was thinking it was an early Valentine’s Day gift and was super confused, but still tickled by the surprise. My confusion quickly turned into absolute astonishment and elation when I opened the box and saw my invitation to

Omi’s Bachelorette Party...in Atlanta...on my birthday weekend!! 

I take that back, it took a while for my mind to register what it was looking at… Bride to Be Tiara & Sash with a framed invitation with words on it that my mind won't put together properly...to MY bachelorette party?!?  

I couldn’t wrap my mind around it...and then I did!!!

Che masterminded the whole thing - and my sister was in on it too? Our friends are coming too?!? Flights booked, house rented, sister & friends making all plans??? And everyone knew about it?!?

Black Destination Wedding Bride - BlackDesti - Bachelorette 115

This man is so fucking amazing!!!  


What am I happy for?


Like, seriously - I don’t know where to start!

I’m happy for my man, my friends, and sister, happiness,

...and my therapist Julie Gigliotti!

She introduced a new word to me today. It isn’t new per se, but it is to me. Hell, I don’t even think I’ve ever even used it and it is oh-so-simple:





noun: delight

  1. great pleasure.

I am happy to truly understand what I need to make life and interactions with myself and others easier. I’ve had trouble with celebrating myself and she’s teaching me to learn to embrace delight! Delight is not an individual temporary event, or act (like a celebration). There is no build up or plan necessary for delight as it is an ongoing feeling.

I’m chasing delight!

Little did she know that my socks were gonna be blown off later in the day!
This night was excellent practice!


What could I have done better?

Nothing! My cluelessness is what allowed me to fully enjoy the surprise!


What am I doing tomorrow?

Basking in my delight! And figuring out how to not forget this day.