16 Days - Destination Wedding Journal - Black Destination Bride

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Day 16

Thursday, May 11, 2017

Temperature: High 58° / Low 52°


What Kind of Day Did I Have & Why?
Today was Headpiece Day!!! On the FIRST day that I really tried to find one, I  knocked it out the park - one GIGANTIC CHECK off my list!

How Do I Feel? Health/Lupie Status?

No problems, so I’ll keep it at a 1! Hopefully, I can keep this going.

Workout Time & Duration?

I had exactly no time for a workout, but I still squeezed in a
15-minute run..hey, it's something!  


Destination Wedding Task Tackled:

It’s Headpiece Day! 

At the first place I went to, I met this really nice guy who kindly told me that there's no way I could find a headpiece here in Pittsburgh, so it would be better to just find a necklace that I like and then use some hair pins to keep it in my head...I considered it, very lightly...sent pics to my Desti Beauty Pro Ivory and she confirmed that it was not quite yet

There are 2 more places that I planned to go to with my Bridefriend Alecia - Clarissa Boutique and this other spot that doesn't get good reviews for bridal dress shopping (we won't even mention it), but I just need a headpiece - so I don't need that much...at least that's what I thought!


We ended up going to Clarissa Boutique FIRST - 30 minutes before they were closing and had an amazing experience! I explained that I wanted 2 pink veils and a gorgeous statement headpiece - in pretty much 1 week. Yes - 2 PINK Veils! In a week!They had never heard or seen this before (hell, neither have I) but I want it and thanks to them being patient and creative enough to listen and play around with me, my bridefriend and I were able to get my vision across and get the ball rolling towards what I want.

So, an hour later And never needed to risk the possibility of horrible service at that other place...

I found the perfect rose gold headpiece - not a necklace!

Possibly a matching statement comb for the back!
(pending budget stretch capabilities)

And we’ll be back on Monday to have my 2 pink veils designed!


*Note to self: MUST remember to do a full review on Clarissa Boutique - Gretchen and Penny were great!

Photo courtesy of Pirouette Paper.

Photo courtesy of Pirouette Paper.

Place cards

Although we chose the painted wood place cards as our #1 place card idea yesterday, I received the news that since I am so damn last minute, we can’t get them in time. Since they’re hand painted, they will take too long to dry and they’re heavy which means they will cost more and take too long to ship 40 to me in time. So...gotta go with our #2 which was the marble hexagons.

Those are a hell of a plan B, so we’re fine with that!

Marble hexagons it’ll be!



Oh, and I also reached out to a recommended Judge to see if he can “marry us” like we discussed on Day 18 here in Pittsburgh on the Monday before we leave for Mexico - his clerk/assistant lady will check his schedule and get back to me - fingers crossed!

Any Old Destination Wedding Tasks Making a Comeback?

Yes and No - I’m back working on the contents of our guest’s wedding boxes. I tried to do a little shopping for outfits at Nordstrom Rack before it was time to go headpiece shopping and ended up finding some cute little candles and I’m thinking...maybe I can use them in our boxes ...but, ooh $5 each - negative! But I’m feeling this candle idea! Anyway, I found a few outfits - none are winners, but who knows - I’ll return if they don't’ workout.

Loving Black Love Moment?

Sooo...I’ve been having a hard time with one of my wedding guests who I expected to be in my corner, but it hasn’t been quite that way...in fact, it hasn’t gone that way at all. It’s been a fucking problem, turned headache, turned heartache as of today. Today I received letter - like a real live handwritten snail mail letter and I’m floored by the contents of the letter. I need to fully digest this before putting the issue on complete blast for the world to see (like Erykah Badu said “...I’m sensitive about my shit.”) But I know understand that I REALLY need to reconsider this relationship - Like FOR REAL FOR REAL. I’m basically 2 weeks away from my wedding and THIS is NOT what I need in my life.

After crying my eyes out and reaching out to my fiancé in the middle of his busy workday, we worked me through it and I ended up pretty confident in my decision to not reply or entertain any negativity at this time in my life. The reality is that bullshit can always wait. I have really important and happy shit going on now - and I’m not about to get all worked up in a confrontation and end up having a Lupus flare - oh no, not me!

I love how Che gives me these Loving Black Love Moments in the middle of the day. He’s there for me whenever I need him.

What am I happy for?

I’m happy that I have a therapy appointment with Julie this weekend. We knew I’d need it, but we had no idea just HOW much - at least I didn’t!

I’m also happy that I didn’t have to go headpiece shopping alone today. The "Old Omi" would have tried to go at it alone and not ask for help...thank goodness for growth and great advice!

What could I have done better?

As a celebratory treat, my Bridefriend Alecia and I had dinner at a new Mexican spot near Clarissa Boutique...I jumped out the window on my lil' pre-wedding diet so I guess I didn’t have to do all that.

But hey, I can jump every now and then - right?!?

Not really with my destination wedding around the damn corner!


What am I doing tomorrow?

According to my shipment stalking, our welcome boxes and the itinerary inserts will BOTH arrive tomorrow! And I have my OB/GYN appointment and I gotta pick up our marriage license too! Who knows what else will come up, but that’s enough for me.


16 Days - Destination Wedding Journal - Black Destination Bride