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Day 9

Thursday, May 18, 2017

Temperature: High 87° / Low 68°


What Kind of Day Did I Have & Why?

Today was a SUPER emotional day and it was all good...okay, maybe not all good - but the good definitely outweighed the bad!
I will never forget this day!



How Do I Feel? Health/Lupie Status?

Fucking awesome is how I feel!

Workout Time & Duration?

I was supposed to get my hair done today, so there was no working out going on today. That’s against the law!


Destination Wedding Task Tackled:

💖 We got pre-married!

💖 I finally made it to the bank for the wire that our planner, Joyce, told us we need to complete for our florist last week. Our final payment is officially for real for real completed! And I withdrew cash for us to take to Mexico - we still have to pay the Night on the Town restaurant, pay for the Meet + Greet and have plenty of cash for the next 2 weeks. So another CHECK!

💖 I was supposed to get my hair done today...but 1.5 hours before my appointment,  I got a text from my stylist saying that she doesn't feel well and needs me to come later in the day...well, I couldn’t do that because we had plans for drinks and dinner and I'd be too late. So I needed it to stay the same time, or move to tomorrow. What happens next? "Well, I don't normally work on Fridays..."- well is that MY problem, and should you even be saying that right now?!? Sorry you don't feel well - I truly am... but I'll see you tomorrow on Friday for my wedding sew in!

And now I have to go to my dress fitting with a friggin bun in my head and then straight to get my hair done tomorrow.
This should be interesting...

💖 Welcome Boxes

👉🏾 I bought our candles for the welcome boxes! Well, most of them, I have to go back tomorrow to get the last 6.

👉🏾 I swear I’m getting tired of these crazy-ass emails I’ve been getting...I’m gonna have to stop checking our email and leave it for Che to do…Today’s bullshit, tryna make me lose my cool email went something like this… actually, it went EXACTLY like this:

...I went to order your bottles yesterday, to my surprise the liquor store says the bottles are discontinued with immediate effect... not sure if they are just changing the bottles or if they are going to cancel making them all together.

This means we will not have them for your wedding…

WHY is this happening right now? Why are we just now working on this?
And why do I have to lose my shit AGAIN 2 days in a row?!?

I had to call my man and tell him what was going on...he’s not trippin’ so neither am I - we’ll just bring our own tequila bottles... just that easy!

But, seriously - she’s gotta stop playing with my emotions like this - tomorrow may not be as great of a day and I can’t be held responsible for my actions THIS CLOSE to my wedding!


Any Old Destination Wedding Tasks Making a Comeback?


Loving Black Love Moment?

We woke up together, got dressed and were legally MARRIED by a Judge at 8:30 am! And it was a surprisingly awesome experience! The Judge had a great personality and obviously loved marrying people. He was warm and kind and even volunteered to take pictures and videos. The Judge was great and I got to commit myself to marrying the love of my life today in a super intimate environment and it was so beautiful. I wasn’t expecting a full service, but there were vows and hand holding, loving eye contact, the I DO’s and the whole shebang.

I’m his wife and he’s my husband...can a Black Love Moment get any better?

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We’re not telling anyone about this until after the wedding and I like sharing this time with my “Secret Husband”. The crazy thing is that I’m looking forward to the actual commitment ceremony next week - THAT's the real wedding, but this was still awesome!

What am I happy for?

We agreed to not share our pre-marriage with our friends and family until after the wedding, but I was able to tell my therapist, Julie about it and I loved every second of reliving the moment!

What could I have done better?

I could have had NO worries about the pre-marriage this morning. That was a waste of energy...I was kind of nervous about getting pre-married because I didn’t want it to take away from our actual wedding next week, but now I know that this has only added to the experience.


What am I doing tomorrow?

Getting my hair done and wedding dress fitting day is back again!
And I swear those 2 things better happen!!!


9 Days - Destination Wedding Journal - Black Destination Bride