161 Days - Destination Wedding Journal - Black Destination Bride

Day 161

Saturday, December 17, 2016

Temperature: High 49° / Low 39°


Last night's ice storm was no joke and it was looking crazy outside this morning, but it did end up warming up as the day carried on.


What Kind of Day Did I Have & Why?

Loving and prophetic. Today was filled with SIGNS since I woke up this morning. A lot of stimulating events took place today, so I hope I don’t forget anything. I feel like yesterday involved a lot of self-reflection and realization and TODAY was full of confirmations, motivations, and reminders of everything I was graced with yesterday.


How Do I Feel? Health/Lupie Status?
No aches or pains to really think about. It could be because I was so distracted by everything else, but I’ll run with it. Today was a 1!


Workout Time & Duration?

Well, since ice was covering the city this morning, I bummed a ride to the gym from my workout partner...and what happened? The gym was CLOSED! Icy conditions prevented them from opening today (even though Starbucks was open), so what was I supposed to do? Skip Arms & Shoulders day - that’s what. As far as I’m concerned, we did our part so damn it, I blame the YMCA! I’ll have to switch up the upper body days next week to account for the missed day, but that’s no biggie.


Destination Wedding Task Tackled:

Our wedding rings have finally arrived!

I said, our wedding rings have FINALLY ARRIVED!

We basically needed our ice skates to get there, but we stopped by to see Melanie at Goldstock Jewelers and try on wedding rings today and it was quite an experience. Che put it perfectly - it was our Wedding Band Fitting! It was great to see Che in his wedding band (which fit perfectly, of course), but I tried my best to not look too hard because I want it to be more of a moment on our wedding day. Seeing my man lookin all MURRIED & shit! There was that, and I was also distracted by my own ring. Here’s the thing: I wasn’t immediately 100% satisfied with my ring but I couldn’t figure out why, so I was busy trying to figure out what it was. And then Che pulled me to the side and reminded me of 2 things: 1 - my ring is handmade and customized, so it won’t look EXACTLY like the sample I tried on (I kept comparing the 2); and 2 - this is MY ring and if it isn’t 100% the way I want it to be, there is no need for me to apologize for expressing it. So, I confidently expressed my concerns and they’re sending it back for correction. We have more than enough time for them to get it right. So, I’m cool. That’s me with my customized ring! Can’t be easy...it wouldn’t be mine if it was.


Any Old Destination Wedding Tasks Making a Comeback?
I can’t think of anything at this very second, so I’ll say no.

Loving Black Love Moment?

This morning, Che decided that he wanted to go to the mall and whenever I asked him what we were going for (it was only a couple times), he would just play the “worry bout yo self” video. If you haven’t seen it, check it out here...It’s hilarious.


Anyway, I was so happy to be looking at our wedding bands that I didn’t stress the reason for a mall trip, and really...when will I ever turn down a trip to the mall? Like really? Never...Never is the answer.


Once we made it into the mall, Che revealed that we are going to the Apple Store to get the new Macbook Pro for my business! I was friggin’ gleaming in the middle of the mall and covering my man with kisses! In the middle of the mall. He’s usually not all into the dramatics, but he let me anyway - sorta. In NO WAY, SHAPE or FORM was I expecting this!

I know I keep saying this, but this man keeps reminding me that I am marrying a man whose every thought, decision, and move are with my happiness are in mind...I really am the luckiest woman in the world!

This part  isn’t exactly specific to the Black Love Moment, but it is related and added to my prophetic sign of the day...and shit, I don’t want to forget it:


As a cherry on top, we went to have a drink and toast to this new investment in ME so I asked for my Prosecco with a sugar rim (since we had celebrating to do and sugar rims are special like that) and they were out...of Prosecco, not sugar.  What do I do when they’re out of Prosecco? Move up to Champagne of course! What else?!? Well, the Champs brand that I chose was the exact same woman-owned brand that I read about during my LuxeGirlPowerBreak session yesterday. It’s called Le Grand Courtage and I was inspired to hear about Tawnya, the amazing woman who started the brand - she was in the Girl Code book I read/listened to yesterday.


"Tawnya Falkner took the leap and gave up her career as a designer/developer in San Francisco to move to  Nuits St Georges in Burgundy, France to follow her passion relating to travel, food & making wine.   The result is Le Grand Courtâge, a new gold-medal winning French sparkling wine…." - LGC's Our Story Page

I was SUPER excited to see it and told Che all about it and we agree that it is a perfect sign to add to my day! So, how about that: I read a book that included several female powerhouses to help recharge my GirlPower batteries, then my man further charges me up and now I get this confirmation in my toast!  What a day! I can’t take any more charging for the day - at this point, I may spontaneously combust! Someone is going to write about ME one day...Just watch!

What am I happy for?

This journal.
have never kept a journal and I know that I have forgotten a lot of great moments in my life. On days like this, I’m happy that I made the decision to start this project and commit to memorializing as much about this experience of planning my destination wedding. There is so much more to me, my relationship and my life than this wedding, and I’m reminded of it daily. I may keep this going on past these 200 Days. Probably not an online journal (It’s quite time intensive to deal with all the formatting and posting)...but I’m absolutely ecstatic about the fact that I’m never going to forget today!


What could I have done better?

After talking to Che more this evening, we came up with a plan that will empower me to do the things that I am not as comfortable with. I’m going to start putting those into practice ASAP… Like now.


What am I doing tomorrow?

Relaxing and reflecting over the past couple of days that I’ve had...and getting my week planned because Christmas is around the corner and so is this official launch! Oh yeah, and I’l be stalking my order for my new computer. They didn’t have the one I wanted in the store today, so we had to order it and have it delivered to the house - it says 1-2 weeks but I’m hoping for 1-2 days. Fingers and toes crossed!