192 Days - Destination Wedding Journal - Black Destination Bride

Day 192

Wednesday, November 16, 2016


Temperature: High 58° / Low 40°
...although, I swear it felt like it never got past 40 today...


What Kind  of Day Did I Have & Why?
Amazingly awesome! So hmmm... where to start? Well, I got to eat my cheat meal for dinner - Chicken Parmesan! And I smashed on it... like for real...SMASHED. But before then, we made a big pre-wedding purchase that I'll share in a little bit below. I also got to have a nice conversation with my replacement at work and that went pretty well too. Oh and I can't forget that I started back juicing again this morning.  Yeah, today was amazingly awesome...Yup, it was! 


How Do I Feel? Health/Lupie Status?
I like the 1-10 rating that I used yesterday, so I'll try it for a little while and see how it works out. Today was another good day, so I'll give it a 5. It was a little worse than yesterday because the cold weather is starting to get to me a bit, so I have to keep an eye on that. It is widely known that cold stress affects autoimmune disease flares, and I have noticed the pattern, so a change is a comin'.  I have new and cute winter gear packed up, so it's about time to pull out the good stuff. 


Workout Time & Duration?
I banged out Week 2 - Day 3: Back Day rather quickly if I can say so myself! For real - I was pretty much done in about an hour. It would normally take about 1h15mins - 1h30mins, so I'm happy about that. My speed may or may not have had something to do with the fact that there was Chicken Parm at home waiting for me to cook. Now that I think about it, yeah...that was definitely it! The cheat meal was motivation for the workout and I'm okay with that...Whatever it takes to get it done.


Destination Wedding Task Tackled:

We bought our wedding bands today!

Whoop! Whoop! Awe, shit! Yup, we got 'em!
Who bought their bands??? WE BOUGHT OUR BANDS!
Who bought their bands??? WE BOUGHT OUR BANDS! 
Yup, that's right! Whoop! Whoop!

Okay, now that I got that out of my system, here's what happened:

During our lunch breaks, Che and I walked to Goldstock and Melanie helped us order our wedding bands. We walked in...okay... Che walked in and I had a little extra bebop in my step (bebop was Melanie's term, not mine)...Anyway, we walked and bebopped over to the case with my ring in it and worked out the customization part.  

After that, there was a 15-minute deliberation about the appropriate wedding band size to choose for me. Here's the thing - a "normal" bride would pick a band that is the same size as their engagement ring and call it a day. In my case, we had to be sure to account for the width of this band along with the inevitable hand swelling that is bound to happen due to my Lupus flares.  Today my hands were slightly swollen, so it was a good day to have a swelling example. I wasn't in full-on flare mode, but the swelling was significant enough for us to be able to see how the fit changed from the last time I was there to try on the ring. This was only about a week ago - Day 198 to be exact. Because this wedding band is on the thicker side, we decided to go with a size 6.5, even though my engagement ring is 6.75. We made this choice because my engagement ring is a little big now and if the band is going to push it towards my knuckle, we want it to fit snuggly and be an anchor to my engagement ring. Melanie also taught us that if diamonds are in the band, it is much easier to go up in size, than to go down in size. This is a huge check off of our list! Che's ring was so much more simpler to pick out. But that is to be expected. He's easy like that. I'm happy that he loves his band too. He didn't bust a bebop in the store like I did, but he was doing it deep down inside... I'm sure of it. 

My ring should be ready in 4 weeks and Che's should be here in 2...Shit is getting real!

The day we purchased our wedding bands! Che's sample was too big, so he didn't want to put it on. It's gorgeous too.   *The pic is intentionally blurry... I wanted to keep the ring a surprise until the wedding day! It is gorgeous! 

The day we purchased our wedding bands! Che's sample was too big, so he didn't want to put it on. It's gorgeous too. 
*The pic is intentionally blurry... I wanted to keep the ring a surprise until the wedding day! It is gorgeous! 


Any Old Destination Wedding Tasks Making a Comeback?
Nope, I'm still in the clear here. 

Loving Black Love Moment?

During the ring size deliberation (which I'm sure took longer than necessary), Che showed a lot of patience with me through the conversation and I appreciate that. He's not always the most patient person that I know, but you'd never know that watching him in that jewelry store today. I'm not entirely comfortable talking about my Lupus flares, and that is exactly what I had to do today and he made me feel comfortable and "normal" today. I know it wasn't easy for him, but that patience meant the world to me. As a matter of fact: I need to tell him that when he wakes up. 


What am I happy for?

  1. Cheat Meals! I learned today that not only are they tasty, they're also excellent motivational tools for the gym! 
  2. Melanie! Because we were up front with her about my condition, she was very helpful and accommodating to figuring out the sizing issue - I'm sure it helps that she is also a great saleswoman.

What could I have done better?

I could have expressed my appreciation for Che's patience sooner because it didn't go unnoticed. But, I'll be sure to make up for that.


What am I doing tomorrow?
Meeting with HR about my separation package and last day at work
Putting together my wedding napkin presentation for Che to review.